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What's in a dream? Wake Up to Yours and Find Out
By Reggie Odom
What’s in a Dream?
What’s in a dream? Shall I start large or small? Let’s go with huge. Martin Luther King proclaimed “I have a dream!” in a passionate and moving speech in 1963 to promote a peaceful movement for the Civil Rights and economic equality of African Americans. His dream changed the face of the nation. A life style change has followed that is now “in the bones” of the majority of citizens in this country. The way things were at that time in history is unimaginable to most people today, even those who lived during that time. Just as the way things are now would have seemed impossible to most people living then. It was not impossible to Martin Luther King, and those who had a similar dream or believed in his. This is one example of what’s in a dream – the power to change reality, and the lives and relations of millions.
Then, of course, there are the Wright Brothers who had a dream of people flying in a machine and were dismissed by those who could point to research proving that what they dreamed was not possible. So much for research!
Another example of an inconceivable dream coming to life is that of my client’s daughter. She has significant learning disabilities which kept her from being able to read in the fourth grade and for which she suffered greatly as a result. Yet she has something bigger than this - she has a dream. She is now 20 years old and entering her junior year of college where she is keeping her vision alive – to become a special education teacher. She has faced her fears of reading, learning and taking exams and recently passed the test that was required in order for her to continue her studies.
Impossible dreams come in all shapes and sizes. In fact, the dreams of most are considered impossibilities to others. We have all been thwarted from our dreams at one time or another by those who do not believe in dreams, who point to why things won’t work rather than asking “why not?” It’s not that they are bad people; it’s simply that their own dreams have been blocked.
As children, dreaming and imagining worlds and moments and ourselves as different, grander, more fun, and alive was as natural to us as breathing. Yet this was considered “child’s play,” and not taken seriously by most adults – adults whose own dreams had been hindered or ridiculed. We learned to tuck our dreams away and grow up. We learned about “the way things are”, “the way people are”, the way “life is”, and that the rest is impossible, so why bother?
Let’s take a look at this idea of “impossible” for a moment from the viewpoint of bumblebees. Did you know that aerodynamically it is simply not possible for bumblebees to fly? But have you ever tried getting a bumblebee to believe that? I don’t know if bumblebees have dreams but it is clear they have a mission that precludes the impossibility of flying. And in some ways a mission is similar to a dream.
A dream is a deep desire; a vision of what you yearn to be, do or have that expresses the deepest truth of who you are. Dreams express an inner urge for growth, an urge for the expression of unrealized aspects of your authentic self. Dreams along with passion and callings pull you forward to your purpose or mission, to realize your fullest potential and to feel deeply alive.
Your dreams come from your imagination where the creation of everything begins. YOUR dreams come from YOUR imagination. Did you get the emphasis on YOUR? Your dreams can only come from you. No one can dream them for you because your dreams are unique to you. Likewise, you can’t live someone else’s dreams and be fulfilled. Many of us have attempted to live the dreams of others or the dreams they have for us, and often we do. However, when we are not living our own dreams, there is a desperation to our lives no matter how outwardly successful we may be. When we are not living our own dreams we are not fully awake or alive.
Look at the fact that bumblebees fly even though it’s aerodynamically impossible as a metaphor for one of YOUR dreams that seems impossible. On one hand you have plenty of evidence that your dream is impossible - this could be in the form of beliefs and assumptions, research and statistics, “shoulds” and “shouldn’ts”. Certainly you have never done it before, and very possibly nobody has. On the other hand, there is the saying, “Things are not always as they appear.” What if your evidence were not the truth, not really the way things are, but rather only the way they seem or have been? What is one of your impossible dreams? Take a deep breath and say it out loud to yourself right now before you read on? No one else will know. Now write it down, “My dream is . . .” Good!
I invite you to say “yes” to the dream you’ve just acknowledged, and to all of your dreams. When you do you are saying “yes” to your truest self. Remember dreams convey an urge to express unrealized aspects of your authentic self. When you live your dreams, you give others courage and permission to do the same. And since dreams can’t live or be achieved in a vacuum, your dreams will create opportunities for others, either directly or indirectly.
Saying “yes” to your dreams usually requires courage and compels you to step outside your comfort zone. But if you want to wake up and feel alive, to live fully and authentically, what’s the alternative? Take comfort that there is not a single authentic dream you have or will have that you do not have the ability to achieve. When you say a full-hearted “yes” to your dreams, the way will be shown and you will be given everything you need for the journey. The journey will take you home to yourself.
There is a simple formula for achieving any dream. It is as follows: Keep your dream alive and keep moving toward it.
You can keep your dream alive in several ways – here are two:
• Spend time every day envisioning your dream, in other words by imagining that it is true now:
- What does it look like; how does it sound, taste; how does it sound, taste, and feel?
- Where are you? Who is with you or around you?
- What’s it like being the person who has accomplished this dream? What is the expression on your face? How do you feel? What is your posture? Are you dressed differently? What are your relationships like?
• Tell others about your dream (but only those who believe in dreams and will believe in yours).
You can keep moving toward your dream in several ways - here are a few:
- Have dream conversations - ask other people what their dreams are and tell them yours.
- Act on each idea concerning your dream that you are inspired by - you will be inspired.
- Say “yes” to the opportunities that come your way – there will be plenty of them if you respond.
- Ask for help - the right people will be happy to help you.
- Today, take one action, however small, in the direction of your dream.
- Take one to three actions each day that will take you closer to your dream.
Remember, the journey to your dreams will take you home to yourself and to experiencing greater aliveness.
You are a natural! You are brilliant! You are magnificent! Simply by being you. Let your light shine!